We don’t keep track of how many times our partner kept his/her mouth shut for the sake of harmony. If you think it’s because men like drama, I’ll have to respectfully disagree. Once a man reaches a certain age, he prefers easy relationships.
When we’re younger, we may tolerate craziness, just because we’re lonely or desperate for sex.
) boyfriend told me I was the first mentally healthy woman he dated in 3 years.
But although I had everything he wanted in a woman, he didn’t feel any “chemistry” for me – so he went back to a younger woman who had serious enough issues that she lost custody of her kids.
In addition to the obvious physical attraction reasons, this man emphasized that it was so much EASIER to go out with a younger woman who has not yet been scarred by life. This is one of the things that women often ignore when they question the tastes of men. But I assume your question was not simply looking for validation: “You’re perfect. If you’re going out and doing things you love and putting yourself in the position to meet like-minded men, great.
I can tell, from your tone, that you’re speaking your truth, based on your experience, and I would never attempt to negate it. Your value goes up – your self-awareness, your experience, your wisdom, your sex drive, your income – and yet, to men, your value goes down.
And the main reasons it goes down are because he wants to have kids or because he’s still a slave to the Maxim aesthetic.
Every time I hear a woman saying that she “intimidates” men, this is what comes to mind. If you’re still finding that there isn’t one quality man in the world who wants a quality woman like you, I have to question something.
First of all, you don’t want to be with a man who is intimidated by you. Just know that there ARE men out there who are looking for peers. I’ve had single parent clients find the love of their lives on Match.com, JDate and Nerve. But one thing I’ve learned from years of dating and dating coaching, is that there’s nothing to learn when placing the blame squarely on everybody else. There are quality men out there – even if they’re few and far between.